Respecting another’s opinion even when it is horribly wrong
Yehudah and Yosef Pave the Way for All of Klal Yisroel:
Yehudah the Path of Teshuvah and Yosef the Path of the Tzaddik
In this week's parsha, Vayigash, we read of two crucial confrontations between two royal figures - Yehudah and Yosef. The first encounter described at the beginning of the parsha occurs before Yosef reveals his identity to his brothers (Bereishis 44,18): "ויגש אליו יהודה ויאמר בי אדוני ידבר נא עבדך דבר באזני אדוני" - “Yehudah approached him and said, 'If you please, my lord, may your servant speak a word in my lord's ears"... The second encounter, after Yosef has revealed his identity to his brothers and has made peace with them, occurs when Yaakov sends Yehudah to Yosef (ibid. 46,28): "ואת יהודה שלח לפניו אל יוסף להורות לפניו גשנה" - "He sent Yehudah before him to Yosef, to instruct ahead of him in Goshen". Here Rashi comments: "To clear a place for him, and to instruct how to settle in it. Ahead of him: before he would arrive there". Rashi adds from an aggadic Midrash: "To establish for him a house of study from which instruction shall go forth."
Therefore, he devised to send Yehudah, representative of the baal teshuvah, to Yosef hatzaddik, to integrate these two forces. Thus, an appropriate path was provided for all members of klal Yisroel. This is the meaning of the possuk: "ואת יהודה שלח לפניו אל יוסף להורות לפניו גשנה", and Rashi's commentary"לתקן לו בית תלמוד שמשם תצא הוראה". In other words, a place was designated to provide instruction in both methods of service to Hashem - that of Yehudah and that of Yosef.
This explains why the initial confrontation in our parsha was so fiery and antagonistic. Both Yosef and Yehudah wished to defend their holy doctrines and guide the people of Yisroel appropriately. They ultimately saw eye to eye and were able to establish a paradigm for future generations to follow. Their message is that both ways are valid and necessary; both are invaluable; therefore, both Yosef and Yehudah, together, were required to pave the way.