There's a Chasam Sofer in this week's parsha that says two fascinating things. I'm going to do an interpretive translation of what he says and we'll see where it leads.
1. If a woman sends her husband out to learn, if she encourages him to be kovei'a ittim, and he goes out to a seder, and he wastes his time, then the woman has the complete schar of talmud Torah, and the man has nothing but the punishment for bittul Torah. It's not her fault that he didn't learn: she did what she was obligated to do. In Olam Haba, she will shine with the brilliance of Torah, and he will be....what? An empty cup of coffee? A list of fantasy football stats? Nothing, nothing, nothing.
2. Michal bas Shaul held like Reb Yosef's hava amina, that eino metzuva v'osseh is greater than metzuva v'oseh. She wore tefillin, as everyone knows from the Gemara in Eiruvin, and that was emblematic of her attitude about women and Zman Grama mitzvos. She didn't want to be bothered to encourage or enable her husband to grow in Torah, because she was busy learning and doing and growing on her own. This is why she had no children till the day she died: her tafkid was to enable others to learn, and by declining to engage in her specific function; the siyata dishmaya for her consonant ability to bear children was impaired.
One thing the Chasam Sofer says is that אין נחת לפניו באינו מצוויים ועושים. I found that to resonate with the Baal Ha'Itur and the Yereim brought by the Rosh in RH 4:7, which is surprising since we in Ashkenaz pasken like the Rav'yah (brought in the Rosh) and the Ra'avad (in the beginning of Toras Kohanim by Semicha), who hold that whatever a man does has full mitzva significance by a woman. (For an basic outline of some of these opinions, see here.) I have to admit, though, that the Shaagas Aryeh in 106 also goes with that mehalach where he assers carrying a shofar through reshus harabim for a woman that needs to hear tekiyos. Still, I think the Chasam Sofer is going even farther than characterizing it as mere כדי לעשות נחת רוח לנשים (Chagiga 16b).
The Chasam Sofer ends by saying that
והנה עד"ז יזדרזו הנשים לגדל בניהם לתורה כי לא יזכו ע״י אינו מצוה ועושה כטעותה של מיכל בת שאול
אלא ע״׳ גידול בניהם
II
In the comments, it was pointed out that this restrictive role assignment can be difficult to bear. Many women resent what seems to be an assumption of unfitness for intellectual tasks and an inferior role in public prayer. It is clear, however, that role assignment is common in the Torah, and we are very serious about working within those roles.
For example: Some families of the Leviim were assigned to guard the gates, an Honor Guard in the Beis Hamikdash. Other families of the Leviim were given the responsibility of singing and playing instruments in the Beis Hamikdash. These familial guilds were absolute and unchangeable, to the extent that if a Levi of the latter were to perform the former, he would be guilty of a capital crime- Erchin 11b,
אמר אביי נקיטינן משורר ששיער בשל חבירו במיתה שנאמר (במדבר ג) והחונים לפני המשכן קדמה לפני אהל מועד וגו' והזר הקרב יומת מאי זר אילימא זר ממש הכתיב חדא זימנא אלא לאו זר דאותה עבודה:
It goes without saying that if a non-kohen were to perform certain avodos that require Kehunah, he would also incur a commensurate punishment.
Why is this true? Is the offense against the Korbanos? Is it because he was pogeim the avodah? No. I believe it is because of his transgression of the division and assignment of Kohanim and Yisraelim, just as the previous case must be because he had no right to cross the line out of his particular role. It is a din of Poretz Geder, of bittul Mechitzos, of Basadeh Triefa.
